I can’t pretend to know what being on the receiving end racism is like. My children & I are as white as Casper The Friendly Ghost.

I can’t act like I know how to handle everything being thrown around right now because, honestly, I don’t have a clue. I struggle to wrap my mind around it and I’m not even a person that is actually faced with a problem. To pretend I even have a dog in this fight makes me feel like an imposter. I’m just a bystander.

But, I don’t want to be a bystander anymore.

I want to do better. For my friends that don’t look like me. For their children. And for their children’s children.

I don’t want to slap the, what I call, “Jesus Bandaid” on the situation right now. Do I believe we are all brothers & sisters & created equally? Absolutely. But now is not the time to just say, “Things will get better when Jesus returns. I love you”.

We must do better.

We must get out of our comfort zones.

Read books that make you uncomfortable. Watch the movies. Buy children’s books that represent people of color. Ask the hard questions to your friends that have been on the receiving end of racism. How can we learn if we don’t ask?

Face the history that happened to people before us. Challenge what you think is true. Let’s teach our children to be better than generations before us.

We have to look within ourselves. You may not be labeled a racist, but do you have racist tendencies? That’s a tough pill to swallow. When I self-reflect I realize I can do MUCH better. I must. I have to.

Do the research yourself. Ask the questions. Don’t expect someone else to do it for you.

And then DO better.

This originally appeared on Facebook.